Simply, too good to be true?

The problem is we often don’t understand the value of what’s in front of us, don’t recognise it and continue to search for it through many different ways. This frequently takes up huge amounts of time and money. Here is an example.

A young uni student who wanted to know what is required for wellbeing and happiness was studying psychology. He was sitting on a park bench looking over his notes.

An older woman with a deep inner wisdom and glow about her, who’d had little formal education sat next to him and before long they were having a deep philosophical conversation on the meaning of life and how to be happy. As the conversation closed she said,

“Its simple. Stay in the present, experience each moment fully and have an open heart and learn to accept and love yourself and you will have a full and satisfying life. The key is love and connection”

The young man was touched, but soon put it aside, thinking, it can’t be that simple and returned to his notes. He completed and furthered his studies over many years and eventually became a professor of psychology. While giving a lecture one day as an old man, a student asked him about the meaning of life and how to be happy. He teared up and said he didn’t know. He reflected on his personal life of failed relationships and few friends and his bouts of depression and the woman on the park bench of so many years before came back to him.

After the lecture he reflected on the simplicity of the wise woman’s message and her glow. He hadn’t appreciated the preciousness of what she shared.

He noticed how he had done everything else before coming back to this simple truth that was revealed to him so long ago.  He had spent his whole life searching for answers that had been there in front of him, but hadn’t recognised their value.

He decided to try the advice of the wise woman.  Staying in the present, fully experiencing each moment. Living with an open heart and with the growing realisation that the key is about love and connection. He had an idea that if he could accept and love himself, he may experience those around more softly. He speculated on how that would attract different people into his life and how he may find more  compassion for others.

This is a metaphor that may apply to many situations.

Simplicity is often overlooked.

What happens when innovation appears to break the mould and produce a relatively simple way of resolving what up until that point has been considered too complex to solve?

Often, they are viewed with suspicion with only the more adventurous consumers coming forward to explore, followed over time by the curious, until it becomes accepted into the mainstream. This may take many years if it makes it into social acceptance. In reality many innovations die due to lack of support or the research to verify their validity.

In this time of sophistication, science, statistics, research methodologies and technology wouldn’t you think we might be happier and healthier? Have better ways of helping people to live fuller, more satisfying lives?

And yet this is not the case with growing percentages of the population diagnosed with mental health problems and taking medication rising.

The problem is when we come across something that is simple, many of us think it’s too good to be true; don’t believe it or are suspicious and think it can’t be genuine and mostly back away.

This is so in my world.

I have developed a succinct methodology for resolving psychological mindsets disturbances and trauma related issues quickly. It has been designed to work with a presenting problem, follow the neural pathway somatically , emotionally and visually to its origins. From here it is designed to illicit a healing pathway with an appropriate resolution and finalise it by integration into awareness. All within in one session at a time. The modality is designed to work with a wide range of personal issues such as depression, anxiety, panic, self-esteem, disturbances and trauma related issues, including recovery of sexual abuse and PTSD. It is appropriate for 80% of the population excluding serious mental health illnesses such as schizophrenia and requires only 3-5 sessions for positive results and recovery of complex issues.

Many years ago, I was looking for a better way of helping people make the changes they required. I was a counsellor, psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner and came across Family Constellations. Fortunately, I recognised the power of the Constellations process founded by Bert Hellinger immediately. I appreciated how this ‘out of the box’ revolutionary, simple way of working with individuals as part of their family system, cut through the irrelevant to that which is acutely relevant in the healing process. It focuses on resolving deep systemic issues and patterns in a brief, experiential process. I recognised its value, ran with it and refined my understanding and practice so that I could use it competently for complex issues and good outcomes for many people.

So much did I love the approach that when I was working with non-systemic issues and went back to my traditional counselling, psychotherapy, clinical hypnotherapy and NLP, I found it frustrating, long winded, convoluted and ineffective by comparison.

I also found it personally confusing and disjointed to use psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and NLP intermittently or eclectically as they each came from different philosophical therapeutic back grounds.

I know other constellation practitioners have found this too, (the discrepancies between traditional methods and the constellation process) and some have subsequently converted their whole practice to constellation work only, in an assumption that all issues are systemic.

I tried that for a while and realised that such an approach was not fitting for the wide array of problems that people face. My experience with clients taught me that while some issues are very much systemic and best treated with constellations, others are uniquely personal. Connected with their life experiences, choices and lived situations.

This led to my innovation of another way of working with personal (non-systemic) issues that people face, that is also ‘out of the box’ in its simplicity and effectiveness in providing good outcomes for a wide range of issues. I found a way of looking at the problems that people struggle with, that were not appropriate for the Family Constellations process, that utilised the best from elements from the past in terms of traditional psychotherapeutic and hypnotherapy knowledge and practice and the latest in neuroscience and trauma treatment.

Further, I found that the philosophies underpinning the constellation and humanistic approaches about what is required for human wellness to be a reliable framework to adopt for the whole of my practice including my new modality. In adopting this philosophical framework, I drew from the simple basics of human core requirements for wellness. These are Love, Connection, Safety, Justice, Dignity and Autonomy and I know that not having some or all of these elements in one’s experience often leads to dis-ease. The aim of my psychotherapy modality is to assist individuals in restoring what is missing or misaligned from their core requirements along naturally occurring healing pathways which I have discovered are innate in the human psyche.

In this I challenge several assumptions that are generally accepted in the helping professions for depression, anxiety, panic attacks and recovery from trauma related issues.

These are,

It’s absolutely possible:

  • To heal a wide range of issues, mindsets, emotionally based disturbances completely without ongoing supportive therapy or medication
  • Healing may take place very rapidly. This is backed up by the findings in neural science and evidenced in my client’s recoveries.
  • To utilise body senses and a light trance to assist the client in going to the core of an issue without re-traumatisation, release disturbing emotions and complete the process with integration within a session.
  • For many people to achieve a complete recovery.
  • Resolve trapped psychological and somatic trauma without re-traumisation.
  • To clear one neural pathway at a time in each session
  • Recovery to take place in a few sessions only.

The modality is Emotional Mind Integration EMI.

As the founder of Emotional Mind Integration my intention is to train as many appropriate people as possible before I stop working as I am at the later stages of my career, so that effective help can go out to many more of the population.

The problem is that innovation challenges the status quo. If a new idea is deemed to be credible and workable then so much may have to change, even be discarded in favour of the new. There is often a big resistance for many to change. People who have spent lots of time and money on training and structure may have to put it aside to adopt a new way of thinking and working and possibly a new identity. This requires commitment and effort. In addition, many often have a strong loyalty to their chosen field that they find hard to let go of. This is even when what they are doing can’t fulfil the needs of the public in an efficient way because it is outdated in the face of present knowledge that includes ground breaking neuroscience. Older methodologies simply don’t contain the knowledge or skills to fulfil modern requirements of faster effective help to recovery. In reaction, the walls go up to protect what is, instead of in favour of the bigger vision of providing a better service to the public.

I know that any psychotherapy, hypnotherapy or psychology education costs in excess of $15-$20,000 and requires extensive time in education and does not provide the knowledge and skills to deal with the wide variety of human issues in the grounded and effective way that is provided by EMI training. EMI training is a 6-day intensive and costs a fraction of the cost of formal education and is suitable for people who help people. Counsellors, psychotherapists, coach’s and those involved in personal development.

While each of the modalities I was previously using has value, they were locked into the time of their innovation which may have been revolutionary then. Even hypnotherapy that utilises trance to reach the unconscious mind is clunky in comparison to EMI, as it leaves the practitioner still wondering how to deal with this or that issue in a haphazard way. I am a clinical hypnotherapist and have had other clinical hypnotherapists, some with advanced training who share that the EMI training has given them so much more grounded, structured information and skills about what goes wrong in the human psyche and what is required to facilitate recovery quickly, as EMI shares techniques and secrets that are not available anywhere else in the world.

The problem is that when people hear about Emotional Mind Integration’s uniqueness and effectiveness with clients or how such information and skills may be imparted in only a six-day intensive for a fraction of the cost of their previous trainings, many find it hard to believe.

Perhaps to gain more credibility I should increase the fee ten-fold and turn it into a degree or diploma and pad it out with many assignments over several years, but as the queen of brief therapy, I choose to champion brief effective training as well as brief psychotherapy.

Interestingly even many Family Constellation practitioners who are in awe of constellation knowledge and practice find it hard to imagine anything else could be so useful in providing another whole set of  ‘out of the box’ information and skills for an even more effective, holistic and unique way to work with their clients for non-systemic issues.

Those who have done EMI hypnosis neurotherapy training have been astounded as to its effect on their clients and how it has allowed them to progress as leaders in their field and go to the next step in their business and can’t praise it enough. It has opened so many doors for them including giving them the confidence to work with a wider range of issues and clients knowing that they have a thoroughly replicable and reliable method of working with a wide range of people and problems in facilitating positive changes in their clients.

The adventurous seekers of best practice are the people who continue to come forward first to new ideas. They may be considered risk takes. It is my hope that once enough people come through this training and enough of the population have reaped its rewards, Emotional Mind Integration may become more mainstream as a simple and effective alternative to long term therapy and medication in living a fuller and more satisfied life.

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